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It may be the most common sex position in the world, but it’s also one of the most intimate lovemaking styles.

Missionary is our favorite position not because it’s the most basic, but because it can be – and often is – the best.

Still, the missionary gets an unfair rep as the boring, vanilla sex position. Missionary sex gets labeled as boring or basic because it’s typically the first position — and sometimes only position — couples try.

And yes, missionary is basic, but that doesn’t stop us. We know what’s good.

According to a survey by Skyn Condoms, the missionary position is the #2 sex position for most couples, behind doggy style.

Missionary is an easy pose for a wide range of people because it doesn’t require much in the way of strength, flexibility, or agility.

When you’re in the missionary position, both you and your partner have an incredible view of each other’s bodies. It’s incredibly sexy to see your partner moving and reacting to the pleasure they’re feeling.

12 Variations On the Missionary Pose

Before you write off missionary as boring, try these variations to make it even better.

missionary with a pillow

1. Missionary With A Pillow

Place a pillow under your butt — either a sex wedge pillow or a regular pillow works fine — and try wrapping your legs around your partner for extra deep penetration.

A little lift changes the angle of entry, and that can make a big difference. If you’re not looking for sex positions that require yoga flexibility, props and pillows can keep everyone comfy and bodies aligned in a pleasurable way.

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2. Coital Alignment Technique

The CAT sex position gives you the best angle for vaginal and clitoral stimulation at the same time.

Have your partner shift up so that his hips are higher than yours. During penetration, his pubic bone should be against your vulva, with pressure on your clit. Have him focus on grinding up and down against you instead of in-and-out thrusting.

There’s a lot of friction, which can make for great clitoral stimulation.

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3. Legs on Shoulders

This one’s pretty self-explanatory. Put your legs up on your partner’s shoulders for an elevated missionary position experience. If you need more room to move or less pressure on your hamstrings, move your legs down onto your partner’s upper arms. If your partner is well-endowed, ask them to go slow, at least at first.

Getting your legs up allows for deeper penetration or easy access to the clitoris with a finger or vibrator.