It is perhaps one of the most controversial debates in human sexuality: Is there or isn’t there a G-spot? And if there is, how do we find it?
Let’s get the facts straight from the beginning: The G-spot does exist. While it might seem elusive, it’s not playing hard to get. You just have to know where to look.
You can find a woman’s G-spot on the front wall of her vagina, about two inches inside. It’s roughly the size of a bean and feels like a walnut.
If you want to go looking for the g-spot, the area must be sexually stimulated in order for it to swell and be palpable. Normally, it’s smooth and flat like any other part of the vaginal wall. When a woman is fully aroused, it feels bumpy. That bumpy area is her paraurethral sponge, which supports the urethra and is like an “X” marking the spot.
The G-spot is not a magic button that you push once or twice to get her to explode in contractions. It responds to firm, ongoing rubbing and massaging.
Violet Blue, sex columnist and author of The Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-Spot, cautions women to not believe the hype. “Part of the problem is that when people started talking more openly about the G-spot, a lot of entrepreneurs rushed in to ‘sell’ the magic button of the G-spot,” she explains. “People need to screen the source of their information.”
While all women have the tissue in varying forms, it’s going to feel really great for some women or it might be unpleasant for others. Of course, every body is different and we can’t expect everyone to respond the same way. If she tells you she isn’t enjoying it, move on to something else.