It is perhaps one of the most controversial debates in human sexuality. Is there or isn’t there a G-spot? And if there is, how do you find it?

Some say it doesn’t exist, some say it is its own pleasure center, and some call it a part of the clitoris.

I can tell you, the G-Spot is in fact a thing. While it might seem elusive, it’s not playing hard to get. You just have to know where to look.

You can find a woman’s G-spot on the front wall of her vagina, about two inches inside. It’s roughly the size of a bean and feels textured like a walnut.

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If you’re still fumbling around trying to find the g-spot with no luck, here’s a tip: The area must be sexually stimulated in order for it to swell. Then you can actually feel it.

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Normally, the G-Spot is smooth and flat like any other part of the vaginal wall. When a woman is fully aroused, it feels bumpy. That bumpy area is her paraurethral sponge, which supports the urethra and is like an “X” marking the spot.

When you’re turned on, the clitoris and urethral sponge swell and become more sensitive — like a hard-on for your vag. There are tiny glands in and right next to the urethra, called Skene’s or paraurethral glands, and they can fill with fluid as you’re gettin’ busy. Ejaculation happens when that fluid is expelled from the urethra and/or Skene’s glands during sexual stimulation.

– Kendall McKenzie

Now before you get the wrong idea, the G-spot is not a magic button that you push once or twice to get her to explode in orgasmic contractions. It responds to firm, ongoing rubbing and massaging.

While all women have the tissue in varying forms, it’s going to feel really great for some women or it might be unpleasant for others. Not every woman enjoys G-spot stimulation and not every woman can have an orgasm this way. I can’t stress enough how different everyone’s bodies can be.

If you want to get more advanced and learn other orgasm techniques then watch this video!