Pompoir — also known as Kabbazah or the Singapore Kiss — is the ancient vaginal squeeze technique that lets a woman milk her man’s penis using only her pelvic muscles.
No thrusting. No wild bouncing. Just rhythmic clenching and releasing that creates a sensation most men describe as “the best feeling on earth.” And the best part? It gives her stronger, more intense orgasms too — many women say it’s addictive for both of them and one of the easiest ways to reach simultaneous climax.
“We had been together for years and sex was good… but never mind-blowing. One night I tried the vaginal squeeze while I was on top. I clenched and released in slow waves while he stayed perfectly still. His eyes rolled back and he came harder than I had ever seen. I felt every throb and had my own powerful orgasm at the same time. Now it’s our secret weapon.” — Lauren, 29
What Is Pompoir?
Pompoir is an ancient sexual technique where a woman uses precise control of her vaginal and pelvic floor muscles to massage and “milk” her partner’s penis. It’s also called Kabbazah (“to clasp”) in Arabic and the Singapore Kiss in Asia. The technique dates back over 3,000 years and was practiced by courtesans, geishas, and temple dancers who wanted to give their lovers unforgettable pleasure while enjoying stronger orgasms themselves.
Unlike regular sex, the man stays almost completely still. The woman does all the work with rhythmic squeezes, pulses, and suction motions that create intense, milking sensations along the entire length of his shaft — and powerful waves of pleasure for her too.
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Why Pompoir Is Addictive for Both of You
Men say the sensation of being milked is the ultimate sexual experience. Women love it because the same rhythmic contractions that drive him wild also stimulate her G-spot and clitoris from the inside, often leading to stronger, longer orgasms and easier simultaneous climax.
Tracey Cox, author of Super Hot Sex, calls it one of the best methods for mutual orgasm: “When a woman has mastered pompoir, she can control the rhythm and intensity so precisely that both partners can time their climax together — something that’s rare in regular thrusting sex.”
How to Do the Pompoir Vaginal Squeeze Step-by-Step
- Start with strong PC muscles. Practice basic Kegels daily for at least 3–4 weeks until you can isolate and control different parts of your vagina.
- Choose the woman-on-top position. This gives you full control and lets gravity help.
- Guide him inside you when he is hard but not yet highly aroused.
- Keep your hips still. No rocking or bouncing — all movement comes from inside.
- Begin with slow clenches: squeeze as you pull him deeper, then release as you push him slightly out. Repeat in a steady rhythm.
Three Powerful Variations
Elevator — Gradually tighten from the entrance all the way up, then slowly release from the top down. Whisper “I’m pulling you deeper” as you squeeze — the slow build drives him wild and gives her intense internal waves.
Sucker — Push down gently as he pulls back, then squeeze hard as he slides in — creating a vacuum-like milking motion. Say “I’m sucking you in” while you do it. Many couples reach simultaneous orgasm with this one.
Twister — Add a gentle twisting motion by rotating your hips slightly while clenching. Combine with dirty talk like “Feel me twisting around you” — the spiral sensation feels completely different and often triggers her strongest orgasms.
Run your fingers up and down his chest and stomach while you squeeze. The light touch keeps him relaxed and heightens every internal sensation. Once you feel him pulsing, switch to quick little flutters right at the head — many men say this is the moment they lose all control and have the most powerful orgasm of their life. The same rhythmic contractions that milk him also press against your G-spot, giving you stronger, deeper orgasms that feel addictive for both of you.
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Pro Tips for Mind-Blowing Pompoir
- Use plenty of lube — the wetter you are, the smoother and more intense the milking feels.
- Keep eye contact and whisper dirty talk from our Dirty Talk post. “I’m squeezing you so tight” drives most men wild.
- Practice the Elevator, Sucker and Twister exercises outside of sex first so your control is automatic when you’re in the moment.
- Combine with a small vibrator pressed against your clit for blended orgasms that feel explosive for both of you.
Common Mistakes to Avoid
- Going too fast or too hard at the beginning — start slow and build.
- Letting him thrust — his stillness is what makes the technique so powerful.
- Forgetting to breathe — deep breathing helps you stay relaxed and in control.
- Skipping the warm-up Kegels — weak muscles can’t deliver the full milking sensation.
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Ready to milk him tonight? Grab the lube, climb on top, and give the Pompoir squeeze a try. You might be surprised how good it feels — for both of you.
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