I’d like to try to give my girlfriend a g-spot orgasm either with my dick, fingers or a toy. I’m fairly inexperienced and so is she, she hasn’t really explored herself so she doesn’t think she has a g-spot. So I’d like to know what toys, positions or moves would be best for her to achieve this orgasm? – Eric R., 24
Let’s be really clear exactly where the G-spot is. This nerve center deep in the front wall of the vagina is about an inch and a half in, underneath the pubic bone.
If you could reach underneath the clitoris from the inside that is where her G-spot is located.
Unlike the clitoris, this deep-seated cluster of nerve endings is not as obvious and as easy to find. The sensitive part of the g spot is embedded deep in the vagina wall.
Many women I’ve spoken to find it easier to reach if they “bear down” or push out with their pelvic muscles.
Initially, the G-spot feels like a tender spot, and when continually stimulated then it starts to feel like “you need to pee badly.”
This is a normal feeling that does go away. The key is that if you can push through this part, and continue stimulation, the pleasure starts building in intensity.
It feels best if my partner makes a motion with her finger like a “come here” signal, that with enough pressure can bring me to a G-spot orgasm. – Karla, 24
Some, but not all women find the G-spot is more responsive after they have had a clitoral orgasm. A clitoral orgasm lubricates and opens up her vagina, activating this area and the deep spot.
If the G-spot is stimulated sufficiently, and the intensity is there, many women can have multiple orgasms one after the other. One woman wrote me saying she could see “colors exploding behind her closed eyes,” when she was having this kind of stimulation. – Sue McGarvie,
Now before you get the wrong idea, the G-spot is not a magic button that you push once or twice to get her to explode in orgasmic contractions. It responds to firm, ongoing rubbing and massaging.
One reader described the amount of pressure needed as enough to “pick his wife up with his fingers.” Some women don’t find that pleasurable, so if you try it and she’s not that into it, use a different move.
During intercourse, the head of the penis can rub the G-spot as you withdraw from thrusting. Since the G-Spot is less than 2 inches from the vaginal opening, shallow thrusts in the woman on top pose or rear entry are particularly good for rubbing the spot just right.
G-spot vibrators can also help you find the spot quickly and stimulate it pleasurably. Try it tonight and tell me what works for you in the comments below.