Would it surprise you to learn that our women readers say anal sex is the number one move their partners ask them to try?
More young women than ever — 35 percent — are engaging in anal sex, and 20 percent of women in relationships have had anal sex in the last three months.
However, if you’ve never it tried before, anal sex is not something that you can just slide into like any old sex position, despite what you’ve seen in porn or how convinced your partner is that they want some strange.
Actually, having someone try to stick their erect penis in your ass (Surprise!) in the heat of passion can be traumatizing and put a person and their asshole off anal for good.
So if you want to make sure that her first anal experience is amazing try these tips:
A simple hack to make anal sex better, or at least stress-free, is to shower beforehand, using plain water to clean the butthole and a little bit inside, too.
Some people think you should give yourself an enema before anal. An enema or an anal douche is a saline solution that you squirt into your rectum to cleanse out the lower bowels. This is actually a technique that women in porn use to prep for hardcore scenes, just to be on the safe side. It’s not necessary.
Massaging the outer area of the anus before attempting intercourse will help relax the internal sphincter.
Some people enjoy the sensation of a lubricated finger — their own or a lover’s — inserted into their ass and gently rotated.
An ass plug or a small vibrator is another great way to begin “feeling out” this area. Just stay relaxed and experiment when your sex drive is at its peak.
When it comes to anal sex, there is no such thing as too much lube. The reason for this is a simple one: The anus doesn’t self-lubricate like the vagina does. While anal sex without lube or with just spit can work, the best hack in the world to make it better is lube.
It’s OK to Stop
Good sex is all about communication. Anal pleasure can be psychological as well as physical. Sharing herself in this way with a partner is an act of openness and giving. I would say “make love, not porn” but … once she gets into it, she may go for a good assfucking now and then.
While relatively uncomplicated, her positioning is a major factor in making it comfortable and pleasurable for both partners. Wide spread knees and keeping that butt at just the right height will help.
Is there a best sex position for trying anal for the first time? Some say no, but that there are three that feel better than any others, especially for first timers.
The first is the Backdoor Sex Position, with her on all fours, and him thrusting from behind. This position works well for your first time because it allows her to back onto the penis at her own pace. If it starts to hurt, she can stop for a second and allow the anus to relax and accommodate it at her own pace. And, if it starts to become uncomfortable for the guy, he too can back up a little bit.
The other position is the spooning position. Because of the angle, it’s a little more relaxed. That’s key for a first-time experience, keeping her relaxed, and for this reason, spooning is probably the best position to start.
Some people will recommend using the standard missionary position or a variation of it for your first time.
Unfortunately, it’s awkward trying to get it in when you’re doing it for the first time. You want to make sure the first time is as easy as possible, right? That way, if things go well, you’ll want to do it again.