It’s the number one move our women readers say their partners ask them to try. Is there a best sex position for trying anal for the first time?
Despite what you’ve seen in porn or how convinced your partner is that they want some strange, if you’ve never it tried before, anal sex is not something that you can just slide into like any old sex position.
Actually, having someone try to stick their erect penis in your ass (Surprise!) in the heat of passion can be traumatizing and put a person and their asshole off anal for good.
So if you want to make sure that her first anal experience is amazing try these tips:
A simple hack to make anal sex better, or at least stress-free, is to shower beforehand, using plain water to clean the butthole and a little bit inside, too.
You might even want to give yourself an enema before anal. An enema or an anal douche is a saline solution that you squirt into your rectum to cleanse out the lower bowels. This is actually a technique that women in porn use to prep for hardcore scenes, just to be on the safe side. It’s not necessary.
Massaging the outer area of the anus before attempting intercourse will help relax the internal sphincter.
Some people enjoy the sensation of a lubricated finger — their own or a lover’s — inserted into their ass and gently rotated.
An ass plug or a small vibrator is another great way to begin “feeling out” this area. Just stay relaxed and experiment when your sex drive is at its peak.
When it comes to anal sex, there is no such thing as too much lube. The reason for this is a simple one: The anus doesn’t self-lubricate like the vagina does. While anal sex without lube or with just spit can work, the best hack in the world to make it better is lube.
It’s OK to Stop
Good sex is all about communication. Anal pleasure can be psychological as well as physical. Sharing herself in this way with a partner is an act of openness and giving. I would say “make love, not porn” but … once she gets into it, she may go for a good assfucking now and then.
While relatively uncomplicated, her positioning is a major factor in making it comfortable and pleasurable for both partners. Wide spread knees and keeping that butt at just the right height will help.
Now that you’re lubed and ready, here are three anal sex positions that feel better than any others, especially for first timers.
The Back Door
The most popular is the doggy style sex position, with her on all fours and him thrusting from behind. For your first time, a slight change would make it more comfortable.
Instead of being up on her hands and knees, she gets a little further down and extends one leg back behind her. In this relaxed pose, she can easily adjust her position and find what feels best.
If it starts to hurt, he can stop for a second and allow her anus to relax and take it at her own pace.
Some people will recommend using the standard missionary position or a variation of it for your first time.
Unfortunately, it’s awkward trying to get it in when you’re doing it for the first time. You want to make sure the first time is as easy as possible, right? That way, if things go well, you’ll want to do it again.
Many couples find the best sex position for first time anal is spooning. Because of the angle, it’s a little more relaxed.
That’s key for a first-time experience, keeping her relaxed, and for this reason spooning is the place to start.