When you’re in a relationship, there’s nothing more intense than superconnected sex. And, with that goal in mind, the ultimate endeavor is a dual orgasm. “Climaxing within seconds of each other is one of the most gratifying sexual encounters you can have,” says Ian Kerner, PhD, author of He Comes Next. “Every sensation is amplified since you’re experiencing it in tandem.”
But it can be tricky to pull off, so we asked readers what their secrets are to peaking together. If you want the best positions to try if you’re intent on mutual climax during sex, read on.
The Riding sex position is great for her to control the pace. Kerner suggests that when riding, you should “pull out so only the tip of his penis is in you, and make shallow movements.” This way, your clit gets the arousal you need to climax.
One minor addition can make all the difference. Because few women can climax without some sort of clitoral stimulation, it’s important to be situated so that either the man or the woman can provide that.
“We have the best luck coming together while 69-ing,” says Mark, a 27-year-old law student. “It’s just much easier to gauge how close my girlfriend is. I can either speed her up or slow her down depending on where I’m at—and she can do the same.”
When your face is … where your face is during oral sex, it’s usually fairly easy for you and your partner to figure out each other’s level of arousal, and time your orgasms. When you’re trying to come together during regular sex, communication is far more important.