The Backdoor sex position provides unfettered access to the tightest spot on her body and gives him total indulgence to get the job done. Many people regard the anus as a forbidden place. The anal taboo adds to the thrill.
Would it surprise you to learn that our women readers say backdoor sex is the number one position their male partners ask them to try?
While relatively uncomplicated, her positioning is a major factor in making it comfortable and pleasurable for both partners. Wide spread knees and keeping that butt at just the right height will help.
Anal sex is not something that, if you’ve never it tried before, you can just slide into like any old sex position, despite what you’ve seen in porn or how convinced your partner is that they want some strange. Actually, having someone try to stick their erect penis in your ass (Surprise!) in the heat of passion can be traumatizing and put a person and their asshole off anal for good.
If you want to make sure that her first anal experience is amazing try these tips:
A simple hack to make anal sex better, or at least stress-free, is to shower beforehand, using plain water to clean the butthole and a little bit inside, too.
Some people think you should give yourself an enema before anal. An enema or an anal douche is a saline solution that you squirt into your rectum to cleanse out the lower bowels. This is actually a technique that women in porn use to prep for hardcore scenes, just to be on the safe side. It’s not necessary.
Some people enjoy the sensation of a lubricated finger — their own or a lover’s — inserted into their ass and gently rotated. Others may prefer the insertion of a lubricated dildo, buttplug or vibrator.
Massaging the outer area of the anus before attempting intercourse will help relax the internal sphincter.
When it comes to anal sex, there is no such thing as too much lube. The reason for this is a simple one: The anus doesn’t self-lubricate like the vagina does. While anal sex without lube or with just spit can work, the best hack in the world to make it better is lube.
It’s OK to Stop
Good sex is all about communication. Anal pleasure can be psychological as well as physical. Sharing herself in this way with a partner is an act of openness and giving. I would say “make love, not porn” but … once she gets into it, she may go for a good assfucking now and then.